We Have a Heartbeat :-)

Scan

Firstly, my apologies for the long time it took me to update – I only get to post in the mornings!

So… wanna hear all about it?

I waited at the EPAU for 65 long minutes to see a consultant. I think my sonographer was in training, because when I finally got in there, the consultant kept telling him what to do…

He hadn’t turned the screen properly away from me, so I could just about see what he was doing as soon as he started. Straight away I could see the little black hole that was the pregnancy sac. But it was empty. He moved in and out, it got bigger and smaller, but there was nothing inside.

He turned to me with a smile, and spoke with an indeterminate accent:

This looks very good here.

He pointed at the black hole.

I figured his training wasn’t going too well, given that he was reassuring me already and he had yet to find an embryo.

He then said he would have to use the “wand” if it was OK with me (that’s the vaginal probe or vag cam), but the consultant stepped in and told him to use the ‘other’ probe.

Ahhh yes, you are very slim, you see! I must use this one!
Yes, yes
, laughs the consultant, she is slim so the other probe is better!

He held up another probe for me to look at and grinned at me.

I couldn’t believe how cheery they both were, given that no one had yet seen any evidence of a baby.

Then suddenly, with the new probe for skinny people, a shadow appeared in the black hole. My heart leapt – there was something there.

He zoomed in and out of the layers of the shadowy area and then there it was – I saw it at the exact same time he did.

A flickering light. A tiny flashing area. A beating heart.

I gasped.

Can you see?
A heartbeat! There’s a heartbeat?
Yes, yes…

He holds the probe still and watches me while I watch the flickering light on the screen in complete awe.

And then I cry.

And my stomach bobs in and out and the baby disappears from view.

I manage to contain my tears long enough for him to find the baby again, take a photo and print it out.

Their smiles say everything.

The baby measures 4mm, which is a little on the small side, but the presence of a heartbeat at that size is just AMAZING.

They want me back in 4 weeks for a repeat scan. In the meantime they have given me aspirin and progesterone suppositories (nice).

For once, I might just take the drugs without question.

So now what?

As you can imagine, I came out of the hospital walking on air. I felt so relieved.

But old habits die hard. By the time DH and I were sat on our own and the boys were in bed, all the fears and doubts were creeping back in. Having been through a horrendous missed miscarriage, I can’t shake the fear that this baby could just stop growing at any time, and I wouldn’t even know.

I have achieved hardly anything over the last couple of weeks, feeling like my life was on hold because I needed to know if this baby was OK in there.

I can’t spend the next four weeks doing the same, and then the four after that, and so on. I can’t live in limbo.

So we have made a decision.

We will book a private scan in two weeks, just to check that everything is progressing as it should through the time that I lost the pregnancy before.

In the meantime, I’m going to try not to think about the millions of adverse outcomes (missed miscarriage, miscarriage, genetic defects, bad test results, bleeding, physical anomalies and deformities, placenta praevia, stillbirth, death in labour (me or the baby or both)), and instead focus on the one good path:

That I am pregnant, and that at the end of September this year (or soon after) we will be a family of five.

I went to sleep last night thinking of all the hearts beating oh-so quietly in our house. Mine and my husband’s, my two boys, and deep inside me, in miniature form, the brand new heart of a miracle I’d long ago stopped hoping for.

19 thoughts on “We Have a Heartbeat :-)

  1. This has made me cry. So much. Happy tears mainly. And a few sad ones for those heartbeats you (and I) didn’t see. Stay positive Rose. That baby needs to feel that you believe in it. X

  2. Oh yay! Just yayayayayyayayayay! Pleased you got some progesterone too. I’d take it. But that’s just me. Sounds like you have a plan. I think the privste scan is a good call. Anything to keep you sane. Just remember you are healthier than ever these days and that HAS to help. X

  3. Yay! Oh that last line gave me goosebumps, all of those heartbeats. Enjoy your pregnancy Rose. Try to relinquish the control. Did you take progesterone with your boys? I did with my son…by pill though. It will make you very sleepy until you adjust. I took aspirin too. And all kinds of other stuff. haha. Congrats!!

    • No – never had any meds before for pregnancy or otherwise. I’m the kind of person who only takes a paracetamol twice a year so I’m feeling a bit apprehensive about all this. Nonetheless, it’s still amazing 🙂

  4. I’ve been on pins and needles waiting for this update from you, and just reading the title I was already crying! I’m so happy and relieved for you. Amazing, just amazing. Stay strong. You can do this!

  5. I have been waiting for this news, checking my reader furiously!!! I am so glad to hear this!!! A heartbeat! From 2 to 3 kids!!!! Yes!!!! Ecstatic for you, Rose!!!! xoxo

  6. Whooo Mama, that got me crying. I love your plan. Allow yourself to feel the joy and focus on what you want to have – another pooping, spitting up, gloriously loud amazing miracle in your house. I am so very happy to read this. I’m sure that there will be an army of readers lifting up prayers for you.

  7. Yes!!! This is brilliant news. I just knew all is well. I share your anxieties Rose but let’s just take it one day at a time. Together. Huge hugs, jumping for joy over here xxx

  8. I was awake last night my typical 12-3am staring at the ceiling but I was sooo afraid of hearing bad news from you that I didn’t check this until later. I was having enough anxiety that this would have taken me over the top. SOOOO relieved and happy to hear that your baby is doing well!!! Such wonderful news!!!

  9. I thought about checking this in the middle of the night when I got up to pee… LOL But I thought that might be a bit “stalker-y” so I waited until morning and was soooo excited! (Then I proceeded to go through my busy day without getting over here to tell you YAY!!!!)
    More hugs and more prayers and HOPE HOPE HOPE! There is always always hope!! I am so thrilled to see this post!

    La-

  10. Yay! So happy to hear this. Try not to worry about the progesterone and baby aspirin. I took this after several miscarriages and I firmly believe these meds are what helped me keep my babies past my first trimester. I don’t believe in taking meds but sometimes I think they can help 🙂 good luck!

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