I Have Stopped Saving Clothes

Since my youngest started growing out of his babygros, I’ve been storing everything away for number 3.

A little while ago, in the light of still not having managed to have a baby, I sorted out the loft and got rid of over half of the stuff I’d put away. The rest sits patiently above our heads, neatly packed in boxes.

Since then I have postponed sorting through the boys current clothes because it was a decision I couldn’t face. Save the good stuff this time? Or not?

DS2 has been getting bigger and bigger and his drawers fuller and fuller, packed with things he doesn’t wear anymore.

Today, as my sense of self is being gradually restored by some much-needed me-time while the boys are at school and preschool, I realised I could face it.

I sorted through both of their chests of drawers and made a huge pile. Not to keep, but to recycle. I didn’t save anything.

You have to draw the line somewhere, right?

I think given DS2 has just turned 3, this is a good place for the line.

And it’s a small but important step in gradually letting go of one dream and hopefully making space in all our lives for a new one.

Not that I’m giving up just yet.

Letting go? Gradually. Giving up? Oh no 😉

5 thoughts on “I Have Stopped Saving Clothes

  1. I saved the kids’ clothes for years and YEARS, hoping that we would one day need them again. Well, and not just clothes – everything baby/toddler/preschool….
    We finally needed them when our second child was SEVEN. That was far too long for ME, but it’s when things finally happened. 🙄 Anyway, I’m finding that I’m once again doing it – storing, saving, etc. and it’s tiresome. Emotionally. I want to be done. I don’t want to not have more children (we’d like two more), but I want to be done thinking about it. I also don’t want to be 40 with a baby. 😛 Idk why, I mean plenty of women do it…
    So, I gave an update of my gynecologist visit here: http://atlantamomofthree.net/2014/09/10/ten-thoughts-wednesday/ Nothing great to report, unfortunately.

    • I feel exactly the same – I don’t like the “clutter” of having to save everything, but at the same time I’ve found it really difficult to let go because financially it saves so much money to reuse what you have already bought. And I always said I never wanted to be 40 with a baby… it was a mantra through my 30s. Now I’m facing 40 in just over 3 months and feeling a lot more relaxed about it. In the years before birth control was invented, it was very common for women to have large families and finish in their early 40s. I don’t want to be thinking about it around my actual birthday (too scary!), but afterwards, if it happened, would I mind? No. I’d love it. 40 is just a number and I don’t feel it at all, so I’m pretty happy about it all, which is weird after I have stressed about it for so many years now. I don’t know how long you have left until you are facing 40, but as someone who’s been trying since she was 37 I can tell you that the view here is not so bad – it’s just the frustration of still trying 😉
      But like you, emotionally, I want to be done. I’ve invested such a lot of thought into it and it’s time for something else. I just want it to be behind me, not a constant factor in my daily decisions. I could write a whole post about this, but I’ll stop there – I know exactly what you mean and I feel the same way!

  2. Yay for you! It’s good to let go, but especially to not give up as well. No sense keeping “clutter” around for something you’re unsure of. Besides, if the day does present itself, then you’ll just have to let your friends and loved ones shower you and the new little one with all new cute things. Plus, in the process, you’re helping others who need the clothes now. Proud of you 🙂

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