Coaching and A Hiatus

I’m just popping in to write a short update and say that I’m taking some time out. I’ve been working through some business coaching material (woo!), and it has really impacted how I think about how I manage my time.

As you probably know I am the biggest project person ever. I love to start new things (like business coaching!). But I also spend most of my time in a state of complete overwhelm, which makes me miserable and also impacts how successful I am (or not) at everything I do.

So. For a while, at least, I’m taking some time out. No blogging. No writing. No learning Japanese. No crazy health and fitness plans. No more business ideas.

Instead I am going to take care of the important things first (family, the washing, dinners, etc. – you know how it is when you run a home), and then I am going to focus on only one thing TO COMPLETION.

I have tried this before with personal projects, and failed. But that doesn’t mean it’s a hopeless case. I can really see how my constant swapping around is hurting my plans to be financially more liberated than I currently am, and I know my personality is jumpy, but I’m going to keep practising.

I’ll be glad of the release of the mental load. I always think of posts I should write and I never get around to it, plus I also think of all the other things I should be doing and feel bad about not doing them/finishing them/starting them.

So we’ll give this a try and see where we go.

I will still be reading, just not posting. Pressure off!

xxx

Old Blogs Now Online

I think I’ve finally got all my old blogs online here. My first ever blog was under my name and ran from July 2005 to November 2006. I picked up again under a pseudonym in May 2012, and I’ve blogged on and off ever since. I’m still working through the 2012+ posts as they have missing pictures, but generally my entire blogging existence is now here at St Francis Folly.

It’s been really interesting reading over some of the old stuff I posted. I wrote a lot when I first started, and I wrote mainly for family and friends. But here’s the thing – the people that commented on my blog weren’t (for the most part) people that I knew. Even back then I existed in a small circle of bloggers, connecting online.

In fact the main reason I stopped blogging in 2006 was because I had started a new job and at least one of my work colleagues had found it and had started reading it (I guess he googled my name – one of the disadvantages of blogging at yourname.com). He never commented on my posts, but he would talk to me at work about what I was writing. He was a little bit odd, and I didn’t really like how he would come over every time I wrote a post and want to discuss it with me.

That’s the thing with blogs. You either have to have the attitude of not giving a shit about people you know reading it, or you have to blog anonymously. I’ve mentioned before that blogging sometimes feels like a one-way sharing of information. I think that’s why I love to connect with other bloggers because you share in the same way. It’s a friendship through writing.

Other things I noticed from my oldest posts:

    1. I was generally much happier and more enthusiastic. I turned to blogging as a release for difficult emotions from 2013 onwards, but back in 2006 I actually observed that I blogged less when I was unhappy. Is that because of the difference in audience? Writing anonymously allows us to express our deepest thoughts, whereas maybe writing for an audience of friends and family makes talking about emotions harder?
    2. I had no free time. I have mistakenly thought that it was becoming a mum thatΒ stole all my time, but when I was working full time I had none either. I was tied to being in a place for 35-40 hours a weeks, doing what other people told me to do. I had to commute. Sometimes also on weekends, and also I did a lot of travel for work. Mentally, I was exhausted at the end of each day. Yes, there were weekend days where I lazed around and did nothing, but they were few and far between.
    3. I took on too many projects. Story of my life!!
    4. I was wittier. Some of my posts were actually funny. These days I am so bloody serious about everything.
    5. I ranted about stuff that annoyed me. Again, I was under this impression that it was having children that made me feel so stressed all the time. Memory failure.
    6. I joined Amazon Associates in 2006, hahaha! I think I have earned about Β£1.23 in 12 years.

I am feeling really enthusiastic about blogging again now πŸ™‚

Collating All My Blogs

In the interests of simplicity, completeness and just because I like things to be orderly, I’m currently in the process of migrating ALL my old blog posts, from the ALL the various blogs I’ve had over the years, to my online home here at St Francis Folly.

I am starting with my first ever WordPress blog from back in 2005. I’ve spent quite a lot of time looking into this, but the only way I can seem to get these very old posts into WordPress now is manually – I only have an old SQL database download of the site, so not even a WordPress file I could try and import. I did spend some time trying to resurrect an old WordPress install on my Mac so I could upgrade and then export the data, but none of the current webservers will let me use PHP 4.4 and my Mac won’t let me use an old webserver. I could use a virtual machine of some sort and use an old operating system, but we’re only talking tens hundreds of posts, not thousands, so I think manually adding them is going to be the easiest way, rather than getting stuck in a spiral of old dependencies that I cannot resolve (I knew should have done it the other way…).

This means I will be spamming you with new posts that are actually old posts – for that I apologise – please delete as necessary, or unfollow me! Once I get past 2006 I can import using the regular WordPress importer and it will all be less intrusive.

This will take a while. I’ve added an archive section to my sidebar (as well as tidying up the site a bit), so you can see the older posts there. I really can’t imagine there is much of interest to read, but for me personally this is my web space and I’d like to have it all together, finally.

I’m tired of wondering why I’m blogging, or thinking I should have a niche, or a specialism, or whatever. I’m just going to do what I want on here because I can, and because why not? I’ve been blogging on and off for 13 years – there must be something I can learn from that, so let’s put it all together and then see where we end up πŸ™‚

A New Home

I am moving to a new blog.

I’ve exported my minimalist and decluttering posts and will now be permanently in residence at:

http://loveminimalism.wordpress.com

Update: I am no longer there either – find me now at Ordinarily Raw!

Update: Nope, I am not there either – you can find me at Zero To Done

Update: Nope, closed that one down too.

Everything I’ve ever written is now here at St Francis Folly πŸ™‚

It’s still very new, so it doesn’t feel too lived in (yet!) compared to this place.

This will blog will remain for the foreseeable future. I may occasionally update on how I’m getting on post-ttc.

I’d love to see you there – bear with me while I get into the swing of things!

Much love,

Rx

Top Searches

Since google has recently decided to encrypt search terms, I’m guessing we’ll be seeing less and less of these kind of posts. While we can still enjoy the fascinating questions that lead people to our blogs (like this one, from 2006), here are some of the queries that have brought people my way:

purging myself of souvenirs
Good! That sounds excellent! I do that a lot too πŸ™‚

feeling low two kids under 3
Hell yeah. Try two kids under 2 – that was an interesting three months, I tell you.

stay at home for three months
Sure. Just do it.

fun things to do with 3 kids
Sadly, you are asking the wrong person πŸ™

feeling fat and miserable after miscarriage
Yes, I did too. Sorry.

declutter butter
Um, nope. Butter is good for you.

am i weird for quitting facebook
Well, I don’t think so, but I am a facebook quitter, so who knows.

do i have to believe everything i read on facebook
Probably.

how do you separate toddler and crawling baby
I spent months wondering this exact same thing. I still don’t have the answer, but they do grow out of it.

3 kinds of hydrogen
Er… are there?

to hell with minimalism, i like cars and big houses
Me too. I just have nothing in mine πŸ˜‰

declutter bras
It can be tricky.

wellies
Why are you here and not on a wellington boots website??

pots and pans dodgy website
Seriously? Do you wanna come and clean my kitchen?!

sheer lust
I know. I’m right here and I’m gorgeous and intelligent. I’m married too, but hey, you can still blog-stalk me πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€

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